Love The Person You Are
Think of how it feels to love someone so much that you would do anything for them. Feel that feeling of being so consumed with eagerness to protect another person without reserve. Be present to what it means for you to have pure concern for the wellness of someone you love. As humans, it is our job to learn how to do that for ourselves.
Why is it that we disregard our own need for care and empathy? How can we be so dismissive of our own need for forgiveness. There must be a way that society teaches us to keep moving without reverence for self-compassion because it is evident that people do not love themselves enough. That is what mindfulness is; being compassionate towards the self. That is what meditation is; being empathic with the self. When a friend comes to you and tells you his or her problems, you don’t automatically start to fix them or brush those problems aside. When a friend is in need of comfort you comfort them. When your loved one is upset and distraught you care for them. The same should be said about your relationships with yourself and to yourself. You deserve better, in fact you deserve your very best.
Be good to who you are. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to you. Love your flaws. Care for your mishaps. Be present with your lack of perfection. Love the person you are entirely and without reservation. When this type of love flourishes in your life, you will have more than enough to be grateful for.

Clarity is one of the greatest resources because it frees us up energetically to spend more time pursuing who we want to be. Instead of wasting time with arduous decision making moments, the gift of clarity propels us to achieve important life goals. Moments of indecision take power away from your here-and-now experience. Being able to pull yourself out of a doubt ridden quagmire is a useful skill. Even more beneficial is an ability to hone in on a sense of clarity before that flip-flopping confusion can even start manifesting. There are several tweaks we can start making on a daily basis in order to learn how to make use of the many healing properties clarity has to offer.




Be Mindful

Having a mindful moment is as valuable as any nutritious meal or much needed back adjustment. Mindfulness has many uses and if employed correctly can influence life in a expansive ways. Mindfulness is an exercise in paying attention to the present moment in a manner that highlights observation as opposed to giving credence to judgement an criticism. Being mindful allows you to take in what is happening around you in a way that showcases feelings of gratitude and trust. Without mindfulness, clarity cannot be fully realized. And as mindfulness is used on a daily basis with thoughtful execution, you will start to realize that the greatest source of clarity is within yourself and not from outside sources.


Trust Your Intuition

The essence of who you are is not the sum of your likes or dislikes, and it is not your gender or your hair color. Your true essence is that knowing voice inside you, that pulsating hum of awareness that is always there and always present. Without identifying your core self you cannot truly trust your intuition. Your intuition rests in the essence of your core. Knowing what your intuition is saying involves pausing in order to wholeheartedly listen to that deeper identity.


It’s OK To Be Wrong

Part of life is failing. Falling short is unavoidable and without that experience it is impossible to know what clarity feels like. The contrast of learning how it feels when you make a wrong decision is invaluable because it shows you where you failed to follow your intuition. Being present with your failures and accepting them as stepping stones can be a perfect way to view the potential to learning how to foster more clarity. Clarity doesn’t mean making perfect decisions all of the time. Clarity means you are going with the flow of life and you are allowing the chips to fall where they may. Without gripping and forcing life, we learn to let the current of trust and safety carry us through challenging decisions.

Train neurons to proliferate happiness




As a therapist, I often wonder how a client can feel better after a session that involved them talking about so many negative things.  Talking about the uncomfortable aspects of life can be important, but only inasmuch as we can balance that with positive emotional encounters. Our brain is a powerful tool and our mind is a valuable compass. Acknowledging the reality of any given situations without getting caught up in emotional derailments is an important skill to have. Seeing things for face value is a way to keep our reactions in check. The only way we can learn to do this is if a shift happens whereby we start giving positive moments the credence they deserve. Most of us push away happy feelings or dismiss them before positivity can flourish. Other times we go to the opposite extreme and externally tout these good experiences as a way to gain attention or praise ourselves without honoring the sacred nature of what it means to hold positivity in a congruent manner.


Learning how to sustain positive emotions takes practice. Forging a relationship with bliss requires you to look at the rituals that connections that fill your life. Positive emotions already exist inside of ourselves, we don’t have to change anything about our lives in order to harness the potential of building our brains out of blissful states. The goal is to allow joy to radiate. Let happiness sink in just as if you were trying to savor a decadent brownie that melts slowly in all corners of your mouth. After practicing how to allow feelings of peace to grow, you will be able to go through life without being derailed by negative emotions. When faced with a positive emotion such as gratitude or a feeling of fulfillment, stay with that mode of functioning in the brain and allow bliss to be your fuel.

Sensory enhancement theories have a new study to back up claims that could help further research on how we can improve our sensory perceptions. Hearing impaired individuals, for example are thought to be able to achieve a higher level of adaptability when it comes to the other functioning sensations. This study asserts that sensory changes in blind mice show improved hearing. To translate that to humans, it is thought that small encounters of visual obscurity could allow someone to learn a new way of taking in sounds for the purpose of adapting to the world around them.




From a very informative piece by Scientific American, we learn that brain cells are able to adapt in ways we previously were not aware of. They wrote:


The researchers played sounds of different frequencies and intensities to the mice, and watched how their brain cells reacted. The results “showed that neurons in visually deprived animals can ‘hear’ much softer sounds” than in control animals, says Lee. “They also have much finer discrimination ability as far as identifying pitch goes.”


These fortifying neuron connections were originally thought to occur in early stages of development. Our brains are constantly evolving. The way we think and feel changes the our relationship with the world. Knowing that our brains can adapt and connect to neurons in new ways, helps us to understand the importance of mind/body health for the purpose of creating and sustaining wellness for as long as we can.

There is new research that claims human emotion can be reduced to four basic feeling states: sad, happy, afraid/surprised, and angry/disgusted. Our DNA is thought to be the reason for these specific emotions, as we lean to fit in socially for a better chance of survival.




Emotion can be thought of like colors painted on a canvas. There are primary colors and from those basic pigments come the other hues. Complex categories of colors have morphed from these simpler samples because of our need for relationships. Social interaction requires us to strive for connection. The glue that connects individuals is their emotional resonance with one another.


Pay attention to the way you feel. Then pay attention to the way you present your emotions to those around you. The way you express yourself is the way in which you connect with others. In order to connect with someone on any human level, there needs to be a sharing of authenticity. Without awareness of the feelings that comprise our emotional pallet we cannot freely express ourselves. And without the freedom to express ourselves fully, we fall into the trap of making inauthentic choices. The best emotion is the most honest emotion because when we are honest with ourselves we can be honest with those around us.

Have you ever looked at a choice you made and wondered what led you to the outcome? Looking back at a bad or a good decision causes us to see where we’ve placed our attention. The focus of our attention determines the route by which we operate in the world. Awareness of where our focus originates helps us to make better choices, and this process of awareness is the key to understanding how to approach the world with more positivity.




Know what fuels you

As important as it is to be aware of the food we put in our bodies, it is equally important to see what emotional factors fuel our actions. This awareness ignites a process that connects you to your goals. On a microscopic scale, the small choices we make effects larger choices. Each mundane factor and seemingly unimportant decision holds the key to shed light on why you do what you do. Knowing what you put into your body allows you to see what you use for energy. Awareness of how your thoughts operate and what they are operating from is an instant connection to your purpose. Every moment is a chance to understand where energy is being created and where it is being wasted.


Emotional and psychological fuel comes in all shapes and sizes however, the main categories of motivational fuel are easily separated into two camps: Love or Fear. Loving choices start with the self-care you give yourself. Either you are acting out of love or reacting out of fear. When you are about to argue with someone or entertain a self-loathing thought, ask yourself “what fuels this for me?” Ask yourself this question honestly and think of the true reason for your motivations. Once you’ve been able to dissect the type of fuel being used then you can begin to shop around for the optimal fuel that will get you the results you want.


You decide what goes into your body and you decide what motivations shape your daily interactions. Knowing what fuels you, based on how you give and receive love, is the best way to allow yourself to flourish in better feeling outcomes. The energy that makes up your choices is the sum of your happiness and taking responsibility for your own happiness is a powerful way to live the life you were meant to live.