Don’t Let Your Sorrows Go To Waste

There is a constant life-force firing throughout our bodies. We can feel our heart beating and see our limbs reach and stretch and hold. Our blood is circulating constantly and our heart beats without any need to control it. Most of what happens with our body happens without a need to manage or pay attention to its operation. Within the concept of our body as a tool for experiencing the world, we see that the more in-tune we are with our body and the more present we are to what is happening inside and outside of ourselves, the more we are able to benefit from the experience of being human.

 

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Expressions of disdain, excitement and dread all occur within our bodies. Sensations of bliss and boredom all exist in our bodies and are interpreted by our minds. We feel things sometimes deeper than others because of how aware or unaware we are of the mind body connection.

 

When someone knows deep loss it is because they know what it is like to be in a state of joy. When one experiences grief it is because they know the difference between that feeling and the feeling of being fulfilled. The contrast of experiences highlights for us our capacity to be present with these emotions. The bittersweet juxtaposition builds on itself in a way that invites us to come closer to our experience. Our ego is constantly fighting the invitation to approach our emotions with more intimate proximity. The more we avoid and the more we distract ourselves from feelings and sensations, the likelihood of fostering a present-focused mind is null. We can’t let our deeper human experiences to be withheld because we are too afraid to see what is actually in front of us.

 

Pain should be felt not treated as a problem. Anxiety should be experienced not solved. Feelings that come with loss shouldn’t be interrupted by pushing them away. Grief should be examined and understood, and by that process of being aware, the pain becomes its own remedy because the alchemy is its own therapy. Glenn Ringtved wrote some of the most profound words I think I’ve ever read, “cry, heart, but never break.” It teaches that extreme hurt is not to be celebrated if one wishes to live in the fullness of the now. Being present to challenging emotions by inviting them into our inner landscape instead of pushing them out, allows for a deepening of character that can only be brought about by facing difficult feelings head-on.

 

Loss is natural and essential, “let your tears of grief and sadness help begin new life.”